A popping noise is something you don’t want to hear right before you walk down the aisle.
And that is exactly what I heard. A tiny pop literally seconds before I walked down the aisle. Standing in front of the church doors, arm in arm with my father, taking a deep breath, the hook and eye latch just popped with no time to fix it. If you look closely at the wedding photos, you can see my dress’s zipper slowly creep down. All night my two bridesmaids had to be on zipper duty and make sure I stayed zipped up!
Other things went wrong that day too: my hair dresser was late, I woke up with a migraine (luckily it went away!), and some other minor details had mishaps. Those things didn’t ruin my day because I didn’t focus on them.
I could have easily let my broken dress ruin my day. I could have demanded that someone fix it right away. Heck, my mother had a sewing kit in her purse and said she would fix it, but it never happened. I could have fussed about it, but nah. My bridesmaids turned zipping me up into a game and we laughed about it all night. I could have gotten mad at my hairdresser for being late, but I took it as a chance to sleep in and eat a great breakfast with my bridesmaids.
The point is that I didn’t focus on the problems. I focused on the fun. In marriage, you have a choice and that choice will determine if something is a simple mishap or a huge disaster.
I have to keep that attitude throughout my marriage. Instead of focusing on the things that go wrong or the could/ will go wrong, I focus on the positive and good things. Sure that gets hard sometimes, especially now that we are trying to have a child, but honestly, after almost six years of marriage, we have a lot of good memories to pull from.
Every couple has a choice. So the question is are you going to let a broken latch destroy your whole marriage or are you going to zip up and keep going?