“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”
In my first apartment, I had a tiny tiny kitchen that we jokingly called The One-Butt” kitchen because two people could not fit into this tiny space. The stove and sink were a fashionable avocado green that match wonderfully with the brown plaid wallpaper that had a faded gold glitter stripe. The stove was top-of-the-line with push buttons; in order to cook the perfect French toast I had to constantly push between the hot and medium buttons. The pantry, however, was a baker’s dream; the pantry was bigger than the kitchen with never-ending shelving.
Yet, despite the unfavorable conditions, I still managed to produce wonderful meals in that kitchen. That tiny space was my domain because I didn’t have to share it….heck, I couldn’t share it! Then I got married and my living space, along with my kitchen, got bigger. But I had to share that space because I was married. He didn’t stack dishes like I did; he didn’t jig-jag the coffee cups so more of them would fit on the shelf. More importantly, he cooked differently then I did. He would measure every ingredient out in a little bowl while I would guess and throw spices in as I cooked. We were two different cooks in a kitchen that held more than one-butt. We had to learn not only how to work together in the kitchen but also how to work together in our marriage.
Cooking requires that a couple listen to one another, prioritize, compromise, and work together. Really, cooking is a wonderful metaphor for marriage. If you don’t pay attention to what you are doing, then you will burn the dish; if you do not pay attention to your spouse then your marriage will burn. Tempers can boil over just like a pot of pasta. But when working together, wonderful things can come from a marriage and a kitchen. Trae and I have burnt plenty of dishes and boiled over plenty of times, but overall we make wonderful things together: memories, laughter, and meals. Sometimes our flavor profiles (personalities) don’t look like they would go together, but in the end, the flavor is amazing. It is just a matter knowing when to give and get. Working together makes the best dishes and the best memories.