“He was such a good kisser. I would love to see if he still is.”
“Ummmm….not going to happen since he is my husband.”
This is the kind of conversation that should never transpire. Tuesday I wrote about how males and females can be friends as long as there is respect for the significant other. But as soon as the respect is gone, then the friendship can become toxic to a relationship.
Trae had a female friend D. who he had known since high school. They had dated on and off in college, and Trae admitted she had been more into him then he ever was into her. Despite the erratic nature of their relationships, they stayed friends. Honestly, their relationship/ friendship did not seem that much different from my friendship with S. After Trae and I got married, D. and I became close friends. D. had been married for about five years when Trae and I tied the knot, so it was nice to have another couple to go out with and look to for advice as we navigated the newlywed years.
About three years after Trae and I got married, D. and her husband started to have problems. Eventually they ended up getting a divorce. When D. and her husband separated, she started becoming more vocal about her past relationship with Trae. Now I don’t mind a trip down memory lane, but discussing details of a physical manner is not the kind of conversation I find appropriate. Despite telling her those topics made me uncomfortable, she continued with the details getting increasingly uncomfortable.