“Do you want a milkshake or a cup of coffee?”
“You know me. What do you think I want?”
“Cookies and cream milkshake for her, and a vanilla milkshake for me.”
Sounds like an exchange that would happen between a husband and wife, right? Well, it wasn’t. It was an exchange I had with my ex-boyfriend S. when I saw him a couple of months ago. I was in town visiting my parents without Trae and had a chance to catch up with him. Trae not only knew and approved of me grabbing milkshakes with S., but he also told me to tell S. hi for him and sorry he missed seeing him.
I dated S. for about two years, and honestly the relationship ended because we were both too young and immature for a serious relationship. We had different life goals and weren’t able to compromise. Compromising, along with similar goals, is key in a marriage. While our break or relationship wasn’t the easiest, our friendship has always been a supportive one.
Trae was the first boyfriend I had who was okay with me being close friends with an ex-boyfriend. And honestly, I think it is okay for men and women to be friends, as long the friendship doesn’t hurt or hinder the relationship between husband and wife. Trae saw the value of the friendship, and since he saw the value of the friendship, he never asked me to stop talking to S.