Trae and I travel around 1,000 miles for Christmas. That is a lot of time in a car fighting traffic. We do it because Christmas is the only holiday we travel for. When we first got married, we spent every holiday and almost every weekend for Trae’s family. That left little time for my family and for us. During Thanksgiving one year after sitting in stand still traffic for two hours, we realized we had to set boundaries.
The holidays are probably when a husband and wife need to most work at setting up boundaries. Boundaries mean that you let both families know that you are implementing the “leave and cleave” portion of marriage, but that doesn’t mean you start being rude and ignoring family. To set boundaries, some things Trae and I have done are: